Intimacy 
with God 
Workbook

A Prayer Strategy

Biblical Steps to 
Intimacy With God

by Richard W. LaFountain

Step 1 – BE STILL

On no other step is it more important to begin and continue to use the 3-minute timer. It is the only way I know of to make myself be still before the throne. 

The secret is in the discipline of laying aside everything else until your heart, mind and spirit are quiet before God. God says, “Be still!” The choice to obey him or not is up to you. Obedience begins here. 

Let go of “stuff”

	Put off your hurry, your lists of things to do,  or your anxiety over tomorrow. It is not time for those things. Put them off. Write them down if you must, but put them away. It is time to seek the Lord!	

Present yourself

	Once you have laid those things aside then you can surrender your empty hands and prepared mind for his use in prayer. Surrender yourself as a living sacrifice to God, holy and acceptable. Lay down on the floor if it helps you to surrender completely to him.	

Wait … 

	Now be still. Just wait. Listen for the sand falling in the hour glass. Can’t hear it can you? Shhh! Be still. Don’t speak. Don’t think words. Silence! Listen for the heartbeat of God. 	

Recognize at the start that until you have trained yourself in the discipline of stillness this will not be possible in three minutes. It is more likely to take 15 minutes for the first few weeks. For me as a hyperactive Type A personality, it took about 30 minutes per day during the first weeks. It is not a race. Don’t hurry in or out of the presence of God. 

Remember God is waiting for you. God is more interested in this discipline than all the others combined. He wants time with you. This is the most important step. Learn it well. Learn it best. You’ll grow to love this time of stillness so much that you will long for it. 

Rest in the Lord. Don’t go on to the next step until your heart is no longer hurried, you  mind is quiet, and your will to do is broken, and you are basking in the sunshine of God’s presence. From there you will move naturally into the second step - worship. 

Practical Disciplines 

1.	Make your mind a sanctuary. Make your mind stop its commotion and noise! Listen to the din of confused voices reminding you of duties, tasks and obligations. Then silence them! Your mind is not a noisy playground, it’s a sanctuary.   Make it obey you.
	
2.	Slow down! Remember “relax” is the word for “be still” in Hebrew.  Consciously loosen the tension of every muscle. It won't come naturally so work at learning to be quiet!  1 Thessalonians 4:11 “Study (force yourself) to be quiet.”
	
3.	Fix your eyes on Jesus - behold the beauty of the Lord.  Like the angels in heaven and all creatures before the throne present yourself to God in stillness. Imagine yourself prostrate at his feet before his throne.
	
4.	Take a few deep breaths. At first take long slow deep breaths. Hold it a few seconds.  Let it out slowly. Control it! You'll be amazed at how it begins to quiet your body, which in turn affects thoughts too. 

Solitary Place
Silence Before Him
Slow Down
Stop Everything
Set aside to-do lists
Surrender yourself before Him

Step 2 – WORSHIP

Alpha and Omega Praise
Praise His name through the alphabet.  Lift up and exalt God’s names beginning with A and end with Z. (Alpha and Omega - 26 Praises) Do it together in the congregation. Attempt to give 3-5 on each letter. There are more than 600 names of God and the Lord Jesus Christ is Scripture.

A	________________________________________________________	
B	________________________________________________________	
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D	________________________________________________________	
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G	________________________________________________________	
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L	________________________________________________________	
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Q	________________________________________________________	
R	________________________________________________________	
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Group Exercise (10 minutes max)
Simply writing down God’s names may or may not be worship. Worship is exalting His Names together. So let’s do it. In groups of 3 begin to worship the Lord by telling him of his excellent greatness. Exalt his name together. 

Discipline 
Do not allow yourself to drift into confession, or thanksgiving or petition. This is a time solely to “behold His beauty.” 

Step 3 – GIVE THANKS
“Enter his gates with thanksgiving.”

Thankful Exercises

Enter his gates with thanksgiving and into his courts with praise. Be thankful unto him and bless his holy name. (Psalm 100)  Now it is time to celebrate His specific acts, mercies, faithfulness, kindness, benefits, blessings, answers to prayer, and goodness. 

General Thanks for all His creation and blessings.
	Psalm 139 is an excellent meditation to prime your thanksgiving pump. 	

Specific Thanks for blessings and benefits to you.
	Psalm 103 is a good starting place. “All his benefits…” covers a lifetime of good things God has done and given to you.  This is a good place to journal your thanks to God. Make a list on a sheet of paper 1-100.  Begin the process of thanking God for 100 benefits. Refuse to leave thanksgiving until your heart is overjoyed at God’s goodness	

Tearful Thanks for all things - the bad, the ugly, the unwanted.
	Make a list of all the bad things you have been bemoaning. List them to God. Ask him to help you believe that he is using that for His glory and your good. Believe him! Read Romans 8:28 and put your heartache into the passage. Turn “all things” into,  for example “My financial loss God is working together for good. Believe Jeremiah 29:11 Tell God you believe it! Rejoice in it! It is true!	

Thank God for Past, Present, Future

Past Answered Prayers and Blessings

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Present Circumstances & Blessings

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People God had placed in my life who are blessings.

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	Bad Things That Have Happened

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Promises of What Will Happen

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Problems that are opportunities for God’s grace and goodness.

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Faith is seeing what is not yet 
visible to the rest, 
but what God has already promised. 

Step 4 – CONFESSION OF SIN
“If we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us 
our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness”  1 John 1:9

CONFESSION CHECKLIST
(Check up on your own secret sins)

Selfish desires
Secret sins
Idle words
Lustful fantasies
Marriage conflicts
Ingratitude
Unforgiving Attitudes
Unresolved conflicts
Doubt	 
Prayerlessness
Indecision & doubt 
Bitterness
Rebellion of heart	
Known disobedience
Temper
Anger		
Impatience with others
Murmuring/complaining
Lying/saying half-truths
Strife in your heart
	____  James 4:3
____  Psalm 66:18
____  Matthew 12:36
____  Matthew 5:28
____  I Peter 3:7b
____  Philippians 4:4-8
____  Mark 11:25-26
____  Matthew 5:23
____  Hebrews 11:6a
____  James 1
____  Hebrews 11:6b / Jer 2:32
____  James 1:6
____  Hebrews 12:15
____  I Samuel 15:23
____  James 4:17
____  Ephesians 4:26-27
____  Ephesians 4:26, 31
____  Ephesians 4:32
____  1 Corinthians 10:10
____  Colossians 3:9

There are sins that "easily beset us" that serve only to weigh us down and cause us shame and hinder our fellowship with God. (Hebrews 12:1)  Each of us has our own set of reoccurring sins.  Confession is laying it out before the Lord... for "all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do."  (Hebrews 4:13)

MY BESETTING SINS
(Lord, these are areas I need cleansing and forgiveness! 
They are sins in my heart and life that keep returning.)

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My Sin Inventory

My Words
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My Attitudes
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My Thoughts
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My Actions 
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Step 5 – CLOTHE IN HIS ARMOR
Believe God For Your Position In Christ

I Am…
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I Can…
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I Cannot…
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	I Have Been …
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I Have…
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My Sins Have Been…
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4. 	____________________________
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Identify Enemy Strongholds

TRIALS
Attacked & Sieges 	TORMENTS
Oppression of the enemy	TRAGEDIES
Bondage to the enemy	
People - 

Finances - 

Family - 

Marriage - 

Problems - 

Physical - 
	Depression -

Physical - 

Fears - 

Anger - 

Moral - 

Backslider - 	Drugs - 

Sexual deviations - 

Abusive behavior - 

Insanity - 

Occult involvement - 

Cults -

Step 6 – CAST YOUR BURDENS

OK, now it is time to dump your load. What is on your mind and heart? It is not about a prayer list, but about your inner longings, your hurts, your pain, your worries, your fears, your anxieties, your family, your finances, your fun, your foolishness, your failures, etc.

Tell God all about it. Unload and leave it here at the foot of the cross. He cares about your worries, your fears, your troubles, your sicknesses, your temptations, your finances, your family, your children, your spouse, your marriage, your job, your tests, your trials, and your needs. There is nothing that you care about that God doesn’t care about. 

Family 
	Place each family member before the Lord. Name them by name. Tell God about their lives, needs, spiritual condition. Surrender each one to Him. 	

Frustrations
	Begin with your marriage and your relationship. Are there frustrations? Is there anything that needs to change?	

Fears 
	
Tell God about your fears, worries, or anxieties. 

Finances	Tell God about your financial concerns, goals, aspirations, debts, your needs, wants, wishes, worries.

Faults
	Tell God about you. Your weaknesses. Your temptations.
This is not confession, we have already done that. 	

Failures
	
It is time to be naked and honest before the throne.	

Exercise (10 minutes max)
Confession is already past but “to one another” is not. It is also time to “bear one another’s burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ.”  No one can help you to bear a burden if they do not know what it is. Share your key burdens, worries and fears with your prayer partners as you are able. 
Discipline 
There will be no time after this point in your intercession to go back to self petitions. This is the time to lay them fully before God so as to NOT take them up again.  Dumping on God is one thing. It is quite another to dump in faith knowing that you are doing it at his invitation because “He cares for you.”  So thank him for hearing, being touched with the feeling of your infirmities.” 

CLOSE YOUR TIME OF INTIMACY

Intimacy with God is very personal. It is a rich time of fellowship with God and personal inventory through the work of God’s Spirit. It is a good thing to take a break at this point in your prayer time, unless of course you are doing the hour of intercession and not an extended time. Go for a walk. Give yourself a time of rejoicing. Listen to worship tapes and let your heart be glad in the Lord. He is with you. Enjoy basking in His presence. 

Developing Intimacy with God takes time. There are no shortcuts, no quick fixes, no speed-praying techniques. Spending time with God is about 
 s p e n d i n g  t i m e  w i t h  G o d!  God is not in a hurry.  He never was and never will be. Slow down and get to know Him.  Your journey is the journey of a lifetime. 

Record What God Has Said
We really believe that God speaks in whispers to the soul. If you have spent 3 minutes or 3 days in retreat alone with God we believe he has spoken to your heart.  His whispers are love letters to your soul. They are significant message of the Heavenly Father to one of his beloved children.  Take the time at the end of your time of intimacy to remember and record what the Lord has whispered to you.   We have provided a short space here, but a better tool is to record it in your daily prayer journal.

About Silence  
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About Worship
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About Thanksgiving
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About Sin
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About Clothing
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About  Burdens
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Prayer Planning Calendar

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Notes	
Day of Prayer and Fasting - 
Day of Intimacy & Intercession -
One-Day Retreat - 
Two Day Retreat -

Personal Prayer Goals: